I am a marriage counselor and many times I receive such kind of questions
How to maintain long lasting relationship?
This is very complicated question many people fail to understand this and as a result their relationship came to an end. Many people talk about long term marriage relationship and write articles but some core facts are ignored. The purpose of writing this article is to share my knowledge and experience to maintain a long lasting relationship between wife and husband. Before starting reading this article make your mind, do you really want to maintain the relationship or not?
You cannot maintain any relationship without efforts, in which directions efforts must make is crucial questions, here is the answer through my article
You cannot only expect taking in a relationship, your habits your likes and dislikes are not only matters. If in a relationship one gives and other take and they think this is love. So here I tell you it is not the beginning of long lasting relationship because this will not help at long term as each individual has its unique identity and needs as a person so apart from love both members should respect the other’s habits and personal qualities. Compromise must be needed from both sides, one side Compromise will frustrate that person. Love is important but bearing one another as they are is the true key of successful relationship.
No matter will be solved by keeping quite. You must talk to each other. Sometimes one of the couple needs a child while other does not this is very important issue you both must talk on it and try to convince other but the communication must be healthy and fruitful. Open and direct communication helps as a oxygen which help the relationship to be alive. There are many issues at home and all must be solved by communication as there is no other way to solve the issues.
I will not ask you to don’t fight at all as it is unnatural. When two people live together they fight on some issues but you must decide correct topic to be fought. You must not create a huge mess on opened cap of toothpaste or wet towel on bed. These are small issues and can be resolved with a smile. Many couples turn such small issues into world war. Don’t do these foolish mistakes if you really want to live with your partner till your old age.
Sometime in the beginning one partner feel so much love for other partner that he or she gives up all his / her need for other partner. One leaves career , child demand or any other thing to support other partner but as an individual person your mind will ask you to do something for you it will create restlessness in you and frustration will increase which start minimizing the love. To prevent this try to be loyal by yourself and don’t sacrifice uselessly. Tell your Partner about your needs.
No one in this likes to be suspected all the time. So trust your partner as he is in your life and he is your part and parcel now. Suspecting the partner will realize him/her that you both are unknown to each other.